Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace.
Ephesians 4:2-3

WHAT’S GOING ON NOW

Re|Engage Fall 2020
As we make plans to be able to meet together again this fall, we wanted to let you know that we will be starting up a new semester of Re|Engage on August 23. I can’t think of a better time to work on marriage than after a couple of months being quarantined together…we can all use the time to decompress! In all seriousness though, we would love to invite married couples to join us as we talk through different aspects of marriage through the lens of scripture. The plan will be to meet up on the 3rd floor of the education building on Sunday evenings at 5:00 pm for a time of investing in marriages. In two semesters, we’ve had more than 80 couples participate in this incredible ministry…we’d love to add you to that list! If you are interested in joining us, you can sign up through the link below. The cost is $40 for the semester, and we will meet most Sunday evenings starting Aug 23 and finishing up on Dec 13. If you have questions, please contact Ronny at rhiggins@firstwoodway.org. Sign up here. 

Married People Newsletter
This monthly newsletter is aimed at giving couples insights and ideas that spark great conversations and encourage the relationship. Sign up here.

RECONNECT, REIGNITE, AND RESURRECT YOUR MARRIAGE
Whether your marriage needs to be reignited, or be completely resurrected, re|engage is a safe place for couples to reconnect. This ministry offers hope to marriages by helping couples move toward oneness through stories of grace, teaching, and small groups. Re|engage is a marriage enrichment program; whether couples are struggling to get along, have broken relationships, or simply want to grow closer together, marriages in any condition can benefit. Contact Ronny at rhiggins@firstwoodway.org for more details.

CHECK OUT THESE RE|ENGAGE TESTIMONIES BY CLICKING ON THE VIDEO BELOW

RE|ENGAGE FORMAT
Large Group | An opportunity for all couples in all phases of the ministry to worship, pray, and learn together. During this time, you will hear couples publicly share their marriage story and leaders teach principles for marriage growth.
Small Group | Couples will then move into a Small Group setting where a Closed Group is formed with 4-5 participating couples to walk through the 16-lesson curriculum together. Once formed, no new couples are added to the Closed Group

Re|engage is for marriages, between one man and one woman, in any and all conditions. Every marriage will benefit, whether couples are struggling to get along, the marriage seems broken, or they simply want to grow closer together as a couple. Attendance without both spouses present is allowed, however, Closed Groups are reserved for couples who are both committed to the process. Previously married couples who are separated or divorced, but might consider reconciling, are also welcome to attend re|engage. Re|engage is not intended for seriously dating, engaged, or cohabitating couples.

The goal of re|engage is not primarily to save couples from divorce, or even to make healthier marriages. The goal of re|engage is to fashion couples into better disciples of Jesus Christ. We believe as our hearts better align with God’s plan and desire for our lives, all relationships (including our marriages) will improve. Through the felt need for better (or more tolerable) marriages, couples will come looking for help. Ultimately, what we offer them is Christ.

In October 2016, researchers from Hope for the Hurting Home published a study about re|engage. From their perspective as an outside party, they investigated re|engage to determine how program results match up with other contemporary research. They used three research methods: quantitative data was gathered via survey from current program participants, audio testimonies from previous program participants were reviewed, and an in-person field study was conducted by the primary researcher.

Significant improvement in marital ratings was found from before participation in re|engage to after. Further, being unified with one’s spouse, finding support in community, and looking to God for strength were three specific behaviors that showed significant growth over the course of re|engage participation and that were correlated with higher marital quality.”

The vast majority of participants, 96.9% to be precise, strongly agreed (81.9%) or agreed (15%) that they would recommend re|engage to others.

In general the qualitative research of couples who testified to the positive impact they believe re|engage had on their marriage yielded several salient themes tied to marital improvement: selflessness, accepting ownership for one’s share in marital problems, working as a team, growing relationships with God, God’s healing intervention, God’s grace and forgiveness, the importance of staying connected to a supportive community and being known, looking to God for the strength to work on one’s marriage, and the presence of severe marital or personal issues.

The vast majority of participants in re|engage claimed their marriage was at least somewhat better at the end of the program than it was when they started, and over half reported their marriage to be greatly improved after participating in re|engage. This self-report of improvement over 16 sessions combined with an average increase of 1.8 points when asked to rate the quality of one’s marriage both before and after participation in re|engage on a 10-point rating scale is strong evidence of a connection between marital improvement and participation in re|engage. Not only were marriages seen to improve, but participants’ happiness in regards to their marriages increased by several points. This increase in happiness regarding one’s marriage is very important as it increases motivation for couples to continue investing in their marital relationship.

Pictures from Marriage Events
Click the images below to see pictures from our previous marriage events at First Woodway.

Refocus Marriage Videos
Did you miss our Refocus event for young married couples? Then check out the videos below!
Week 1 – Spiritual Intimacy
Week 2 – Communication
Week 3 – Conflict Resolution
Week 5 – Emotional Intimacy

Marriage Resources
Cherish or Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas
Garythomas.com
The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman
The Meaning of Marriage by Tim Keller
Sheet Music by Kevin Leman
The Kindness Challenge by Shaunti Feldhahn
Shaunti.com
Love and Respect by Emerson Eggerichs
You and Me Forever by Francis and Lisa Chan
What Did You Expect by Paul Tripp
Focusonthefamily.com
Scottkedersha.com
Fiercemarriage.com
Marriage365.org
Homeword.com
DesiringGod.org/topics/marriage